When you tell people you're getting divorced, they almost always have the same misguided response: "I'm sorry."
They're sorry to hear about it, they offer condolences like your dog just died. And it's true that something died, a dream that you had long ago about your marriage. You hear them say sorry and you know it just isn't right - you know it in your heart because what is also dying is your pain, your mistakes, your constant battles and your bleak outlook. The real event in your life is not that the marriage is going away, but that your future is beginning.
What they should say if they really could see your future is: "CONGRATULATIONS!"
Divorce isn't loss, it's not something to feel sorry about. If you’re getting divorced, your loss is already far in the past. Your love is long gone, the marriage is already dead, and probably has been dead for years.
A person getting divorced isn't letting go of something good. What remains after a marriage dies but divorce hasn't yet begun is: pain, resentment, distrust, wounds that won't heal, the atrophy of hearts and souls. Before deciding to get divorced, you are already in a world of hurt, and the day you finally come out of that painful world is a day to celebrate.
Now you can celebrate new beginnings, reject pain and embrace healing, find old freedoms and discover new ones, remind yourself of the wonder of love. Divorce is an open doorway into a better world. You are lucky to get divorced, blessed to finally get on the path to a better place. Every divorce is a declaration of freedom, a call to new adventures, a celebration of renewed life.
Every divorce is a lucky divorce.