Are you at home? Do you feel at home? Look around you. If you moved out, you probably started with almost nothing, bare walls and broken hearts. If she moved out, she took a lot of stuff with her, some of your favorite stuff. What’s left?
What does your home look like? What does it feel like?
Not just to you, but to the eyes of someone just coming to see your new place for the first time? It probably looks incomplete. It probably looks mismatched. It probably looks ... I hate to say it: Sad.
This matters more than you know: The place you live in needs to be a space that speaks to you, and speaks well of you. It should support you, welcome you, encourage you to live well. People who see you in your new place should feel like they see a man who’s got his sh!t together.
You might not have had to furnish a place since you first lived on your own. Maybe you’ve never had to furnish a place like a proper adult. Where do you start? What do you really need? How do you avoid looking as broken as you feel? The place you live, the stuff of your life - it’s not about material things, it’s about how perfectly chosen objects support your life. Get your Furnishings in order, this is one of the Five Fundamentals you must get right.